Carol Jean Toomey

Born February 1, 1933 in Jersey City, New Jersey
Departed March 28, 2022 in Melbourne, Florida

Carol Jean Toomey, age 89, was peacefully called into her eternal reward on Monday afternoon March 28, 2022, at her home in Melbourne, Florida. As a full-time mother and homemaker, she is often lovingly compared to the classic TV moms of the late 60’s and 70’s – June Cleaver and Carol Brady. She made available a safe and loving place for the neighborhood and school friends of her own four children and all were welcome to hang out, shoot hoops, do some occasional homework, drink lots of lemonade, iced tea and of course, stay for dinner.

Born in Jersey City, NJ on February 1,1933, Carol was the eldest child of Charles Anton and Clara (Claire) Gertrude Heins. She graduated from Freehold High School and then moved to Union City, NJ to live with her grandparents, working in the family’s German Deli. She attended night classes at NYU, which helped her secure her first job outside of the family business with the Ford Motor Company in the inventory control and import/export department.

In 1953, Carol met her future husband Jeremiah (Jerry) Bernard Toomey on a blind date set up by one of her NYU classmates who was dating Jerry’s brother. Overcoming substantial (for the times) differences: geographical (NJ vs NYC), ethnic (German vs. Irish), spirituality (Catholic vs. Non-Catholic), and cultural (drinking beer vs 7&7), the couple’s relationship blossomed into a storybook love affair that lasted nearly 67 years.

Carol, Jerry and their two oldest sons moved to Melbourne, Florida in 1960 to join the great “Space Race” – a career opportunity of a lifetime that would become a lifelong passion for the entire family. Other than the six years they spent in Miami Lakes (during the Miami Dolphins notorious reign in the early 70’s), Carol’s Florida life has been in Melbourne, spending a total of 58 years here. As a Domestic Engineer, Carol kept all the balls in the air managing the lives and schedules of two adults and four very active kids. She rode shotgun on homework and school assignments, delivered a well-balanced (and tasty) dinner every night. She also got to know all of her kids’ friends, organized carpools shuttling them to and from every sport practice imaginable and never missing a game, and somehow found time for bowling and playing bridge with her own friends. Carol was the epitome of efficiency, organization, and scheduling!

Carol volunteered in many capacities such as a Melbourne Hospital Pink Lady, Our Lady of Lourdes (OLL) Catholic School Grey Lady (nurse), and an OLL and University Park Elementary School substitute teacher. She and Jerry were in the first group of Eucharistic Ministers at OLL, a role she treasured. When the last of her kids left for college, she re-entered the private sector as a Bridal Consultant with the Edward Macy Brenner Bridal Shop, however, that career ended when Jerry retired, and they began a life of travel and adventure. Together they traveled to 67 Countries, sometimes on their own, sometimes with long time Melbourne friends, and sometimes with their kids. They hiked mountains, rode “rocket boats” and white-water rafts, zip lined over forest canopies, explored ancient cities and glaciers, learned to Tango, and tasted exquisite wine and fine food from all over the world. Wherever they went, new friendships were made and maintained, as evidenced by their immense international Christmas Card list!

Some of Carol’s favorite memories were summers spent at Callaway Gardens, GA with many of their lifelong friends and families from Melbourne and Miami Lakes. The two day car ride caravans, the two room cabins with no phones and one bathroom, porch parties, water skiing, water volleyball, and taking their lives into their hands learning how to do all of the FSU Flying High Circus acts such as: the bicycle-built-for-5, juggling, the high wire, the spanish web, and even the flying trapeze! Another highlight was meeting the horse named Secretariat at the Hialeah Racetrack in Hialeah, FL.

Carol is survived by her one and only husband and life partner Jerry, and their four loving children: Stephen (Kathryn) Toomey, Raymond (Debra) Toomey, Trisha (Matt) Rogers, and Kenneth (Carlene) Toomey. Together, they have provided her with 10 amazing grandchildren: Jared (Katie) Toomey, John (Christine) Toomey, Neal Toomey, Shannon (Aaron) Simpson, Christopher (Meghan) Rogers, Meredith (Scott) Gray, Dru (Cristina) Merry, Jud Merry, Stephanie (Sean) Baker and Michael (Katy) King. Her grandchildren have in turn, provided her with 11 great-grandchildren with another baby due in July 2022, making a total of 12 great-grandchildren, which includes one that will carry on the Toomey legacy – 14-month-old Sutton Raine Toomey (John and Christine). Carol is blessed with seven nieces and nephews and 14 grand nieces and nephews. Her sister, Althea Lombard, resides in Pompano Beach and always looked forward to spending time with her big sister. Carol was pre-deceased by her parents, Charles Anton and Clara (Claire) Gertrude (we all called her Gram) Heins.

Visitation will be held at Brownlie-Maxwell Funeral Home in Melbourne, FL on Sunday, April 3 from 4:00 – 6:00 pm with a rosary service at 5:30 pm. The Mass of Resurrection will be celebrated at Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church in Melbourne, FL on Monday, April 4, 2022, at 11:00 am. Father Michael Farrell will preside at all services. Interment will be at the Cape Canaveral National Cemetery at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations in Carol Toomey’s name be made to
Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic School
℅ Donna Witherspoon – Principal
420 Fee Ave., Melbourne, FL 32901


Melbourne Central Catholic High School
℅ Nick Regina – President
154 East Florida Ave., Melbourne, FL 32901

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Coach Spillman from Rockledge wrote on April 12, 2022:
Trish ..Ken so sorry to hear.. Your mom was a good lady and helped me out a lot with u crazy kids at O.L.L. BE SAFE
Laurie Toomey from Hackensack, N.J. 07601 wrote on April 5, 2022:
Laurie Toomey From Hackensack N.J. April 5, 2022 I'm was so very sorry loss wife, mom it sorrow career, impact. it supported should be stay stronger with our family's, friends of prayers of lord in heaven a sprist. My Aunt Carol and I could such of best friend ever a good company with me had enjoy each other of together and you gave it's a christmas gift for the grapefruit and orange to pick in the tree fresh fruits in Florida just sent me to every years we will miss you our forward. She's will to watch over you and all they;re no more pain and sick anymore to stay be brave of you. She's is a sweet woman and possibly of definitely wonderful person. we will our prayer Rent in Peace our Forever. I Love You Laurie Toomey oxoxoxox
Elizabeth McKinney from Norman wrote on April 3, 2022:
What a beautiful life tribute! Sending our love and sincerest condolences to the entire Toomey family, especially our son-in-law Jared and daughter Katie. Love, Elizabeth and Lawrence
June Kirwin from Melbourne Beach, FL wrote on April 2, 2022:
It's been a few years, but I so enjoyed the warmth and enthusiasm Carol and Jerry shared with me about their vast adventures in retirement! Priorities of keeping fit and helping others were also at the top of the list.
Joann and Kent Read from Satellite Beach, FL wrote on April 2, 2022:
Wonderful mother and wife to a blessed family. Our sincere condolences.
Sandy and Phil Anzelmo wrote on April 2, 2022:
Your mother was blessed with a wonderful family and life. Your love for her and the memories you hold are a treasure To behold. Blessings to your entire family. Sandy and Phil Anzelmo
Mike and Dawn Redfearn from Wentzville wrote on April 1, 2022:
What an adventure she had! What a legacy she has left behind. Trisha and Matt you have our sincere condolences.
Michael Toomey from Spring, Texas wrote on April 1, 2022:
Please accept our sincere condolences on Aunt Carol's passing. She was a beautiful person and will be sorely missed by both myself and family. Aunt Carol made the world a better place just by her being in it. Love; Michael and Barbara
Michael & Karen Strini from Deland wrote on April 1, 2022:
To Jerry and all the Toomey family; we send our deepest condolences for your loss. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Michael & Karen Strini
Bonnie and Frank from NSB and Buffalo, NY wrote on April 1, 2022:
We first met Carol during family happy hour upstairs in our new friends condo~Trisha and Matt. Carol’s sweet demeanor and informative events in Florida made for a memorable time. We feel blessed to have spent time with her, although brief, and know that Trisha compassionately cared for her m❤️M. What a loving legacy and enriched life to leave behind. Rest in peace, Carol. Blessings, Bonnie and Frank
Brooke Bair from Kingston, NY wrote on April 1, 2022:
A beautiful soul that loved her family dearly. She will be missed.
Dale (and Corynne) Pasonski from Indialantic wrote on April 1, 2022:
Our sincere condolences to the entire Toomey Family. Carol and Jerry were two for my parents longest known friends and neighbors! Carol will be deeply missed.
Peter and Linda Figueira from New Smyrna Beach wrote on April 1, 2022:
Trisha and Matt, Linda and I are so sorry for the passing of your Mom.. Your mother is no longer suffering ,and is now at peace in heaven. Peter and Linda
Tiina Lombard from Aventura wrote on April 1, 2022:
Lovely tribute to a sweet lady. We will miss her 🙏
Tiina Lombard from Aventura, FL wrote on April 1, 2022:
What a lovely person and what a beautiful long life! We are so happy to have known her.
Daniel and Jean Toomey from Wurtsboro, NY wrote on March 31, 2022:
Sincere condolences to the Family.

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